It’s not that we’re incapable of basic flirting abilities; it’s just that we’re a lot more comfortable with the situation when it’s the guy to take the lead in it. Nonetheless, it is a reality that women can and should feel comfortable approaching men in whom they have an interest. As a matter of fact, in today’s society, lots of men actually value and appreciate it when a woman takes the initiative.

Thus, you shouldn’t let the fact that you’re an introvert stop you from experiencing the thrill of being the first to ask to go out on dates. It is difficult to know who you will come across on the street!

If you are more reserved than the average person and you are reading this, you are probably thinking that this is going to be yet another post about doing something you’ve never done before, stepping outside of your comfort zone, etc., etc. How many previous instances were there in which we were shown the same information? Honestly, it’s not a horrible advice, but there are definitely situations in which it is much easier hearing than putting it really into practice.

This raises the question on some practical methods a timid female can approach a guy that won’t leave her in absolute pain at the possibility of doing it. To be more specific, what are some ways that a diffident woman can use to approach a man in a way that will not leave her in complete and utter torment?

You don’t need to put yourself out there by approaching the first handsome guy you see and asking him out to dinner; rather, you should focus on challenging yourself in ways that are more subtle. If you battle with shyness and would need some assistance approaching a person that you find attractive but don’t know how, check out some useful ideas that will assist you in doing so.

  1. Try to make direct contact with the other person’s eyes

Maintaining eye contact with a man is one of the quickest and easiest ways to let him know that you’re interested in him in a way that won’t be obvious. Put down the phone, glance up, and give yourself the challenge of making eye contact with that person if you find him attractive. The idea of making eye contact with a complete stranger can give some people the willies, but if you find that person attractive, put down the phone and give yourself the challenge. Don’t look at him as if he’s a wanted criminal on the Most Wanted list and you’re an FBI agent trying to catch him. Instead, look at him as if you’re a friend trying to help him out. It only requires that you give it a cursory examination. This gives him the opportunity to approach you and start a conversation with you. The award goes to the reserved young lady!

  1. Add a smile

It’s crucial to make eye contact, but what should you do if you find yourself staring directly into the eyes of another person? You should not quickly stare down in complete and total panic. This is the wrong thing to do. It’s likely that you’re apprehensive, but you shouldn’t let your body language show it. If you are, others will treat you differently. When you do finally succeed in making eye contact with him, don’t forget to give him a warm smile as soon as you do so. If he is perceptive, he will recognize that you have affections for him and respond in a manner that is appropriate to those feelings.

  1. Ask him a question that has nothing to do with the subject being discussed

One of the most successful ways to approach a guy without really asking him out on a date is to ask him for assistance with anything or to ask him a question that is completely unrelated to the issue at hand.

You should never, ever, under any circumstances, dumb yourself down for another person, but you can use it as a strategy to just start a discussion with them if you want to. If you truly need some help in this kind of situation, that is a wonderful strategy! Otherwise, if you would like to avoid the awkwardness that can result from opening a conversation with a comment that is seemingly unrelated, asking for assistance is another great and modest technique to begin a talk with a new guy.

  1. Don’t stop flirting

Flirting is something that comes naturally to all women, regardless of how guarded or reserved they may be, and a lot of it takes place instinctively when we are chatting to a guy that we are interested in. This is because flirting is something that comes naturally to women.

Even though the two of you may have started chatting to each other after making eye contact, smiling, or asking for assistance, the fact that you did any of these things does not give you permission to ruin everything by suddenly becoming lethargic. You shouldn’t pass up the opportunity to flirt with the person, regardless of how fleeting it may be. You won’t accomplish anything meaningful if, after putting these tactics to use, you immediately get defensive the moment you start talking to the other person in front of you.

  1. If the circumstances call for it, make a remark about something you’ve noticed

Let’s say you’re on the subway next to a good-looking guy you find appealing, and all of a sudden the lights start flickering; a little boy gets out of control and start shouting out loud, or something else unexpected and strange happens. What do you do? What action would you take?

Well, this might be the perfect time to offer a clever or astute observational remark that might start a conversation with the other individual. You are both aware of what is going on (unless he is glued to his phone, in which case, forget about him), and it is an opportunity for you to start chatting to him without it being entirely obvious that you are doing so.

  1. Make an effort not to take other people’s comments or actions so personally

It is essential to bear this context in mind. When we don’t get favorable outcomes from putting ourselves out there, it may be so daunting for shy girls that we rapidly retreat to hermit mode. This is especially true when we put ourselves in situations where we can get rejected. This can become a self-perpetuating loop. You shouldn’t be too hard on yourself if you put yourself to the test and try out some of these low-key ways of flirting with him, but he doesn’t seem interested in what you have to offer. He’s not the type of person who would be interested in someone like you. Try not to take it so personally because it’s quite likely that situation when you’ve turned down the other guys in the past. It’s possible that he isn’t even looking for a companion, at all, for maybe he isn’t even single! So don’t take it personal, please!

Regardless of the circumstances, it is imperative that you do not give other people the power to decide how much value you possess. You have a long way to go, but if you keep rising the ranks, who knows, maybe one day you’ll be a brash and flirting superhero. Who knows?